9 Super Sweet Ways to help Every New Mom
Mark and I have a nice couple in our neighborhood who are expecting their first baby. She is due in a about a week. We had them over for dinner the other night and I couldn’t help but think about being in their exact shoes a few months earlier. Their lives are about to drastically change, for the better of course. Its incredible how hard the transition really is for a new mom and dad. My husband and I are so thankful for all of the love and support we have received (and are still receiving) during this time. I remember thinking “wow, I didn’t realize the extent of what new moms go through!” Not only lack of sleep but trying to function having someone totally glued to you 24/7. I am so grateful for all of the help I got during my transition to motherhood. I remember thinking now I know what its like to be a new mom and I have got to help out other new moms when I can. Well now I have the opportunity! I remembered all of the specific things people did for us and I thought I’d put together a list, things we might be able to do for our neighbors. (spoiler alert the last one is the best ;))
As much as we tried to be prepared, when we got home from the hospital we didn’t have much easy-prep meals or groceries in general. Mark texted some friends to see if they could swing by and pick up some groceries and deliver them to us. When the couple that volunteered asked for a list I couldn’t think straight, but I came up with a few items. These sweet friends ended up filling in the holes in my list and grabbed some extra things, for example I asked for spaghetti sauce and noodles and the wife grabbed a bag of caesar salad, ground beef and texas toast to complete the meal. To top it off they ended up paying for it all and refused to be reimbursed. We would have be incredibly happy with them just picking it up. A couple weeks later another friend did the same thing! So sweet.
Walk the Dog
We don’t have a yard at our townhouse so we have to walk Mitchell, our pup, multiple times a day. He turned 1 a week after Layla was born and this boxer has a ton of energy. It was stressful thinking about taking him out. Especially when Mark had to work and I was home alone. I am so grateful for those who came by just to walk him.
Mark works 12 hours shifts so it’s a long day when he is gone and I wasn’t used to just sitting in my house all day. I felt so isolated and alone sometimes. People offered to come over and take Layla off my hands so I could get things done around the house or nap, but most of the time I just sat with them and talked because I enjoyed the company so much and that was really what I needed.
Ride in the Car
Car rides can be so intimidating especially if your baby is crying in the back seat and you can’t do a thing about it. A few times Mark had to work and I needed to go somewhere, I asked some friends to come over so they could ride with me when I went out. Even if it was just to church, it was so nice to have that friend there with me to help me load up the car and ride with me. They’d sit in the back seat and keep Layla calm which kept me calm. A couple of times when i didn’t have that I ended up pulling over and moving to the back seat and Layla and I just cried together.
Hold her baby
I remember, as a new mom, having Layla in my arms and needing to eat, pee, brush my teeth, make coffee and a whole list of other things all at the same time. I thought if I get a minute without her I don’t even know what I’d do first. I felt like I had her 24/7. It was so nice when someone would offer to hold her even if I didn’t have anything else I had to do. It was nice to just sit and chat without her in my arms sometimes. Just make sure when momma’s ready you give the baby back 😉
Go on Walks
I had a bit of a hard time with my hormones and sometimes still do, but getting out and getting fresh air was really nice, plus we could take the pup. One time 2 of my girlfriends came over and we walked to the park around the corner and it was awesome! They gave me the encouragement to give it a try, helped me bust out the stroller and Layla did great. I really enjoyed it and I never would have attempted it alone.
I don’t know what we would have done if we didn’t have so many friends and family help us out with meals. It was awesome and I am so grateful for that. Some of my favorites were when someone offered to pick up take out for us and some of the meals that we could freeze until we needed them. Every new mom needs this help! Our church set up a rotation for us using Take Them a Meal. This was nice for me because I could clearly see what days I could expect a meal.
This is obvious, but it’s hard for new moms to ask or to even know when to ask. I was so encouraged when one of my friends texted me a few days before my birthday and offered to come over and watch Layla while Mark and I went out together. It was also wonderful that she offered to come over instead of us taking Layla to her. It was the first time I left Layla and we had a great time. We needed that, plus my friend was happy to have the opportunity to sit and catch up on her shows while she snuggled with sweet Layla.
Tell her she is doing a good job:
This is probably the most important one to remember and it’s the easiest. I can’t tell you how much my heart would lighten up when I heard “you’re such a good mommy” or “you’re doing a great job” I felt like my soul literally needed to hear that. As a new mom, it was as if I was tensing up my whole being and I didn’t even realize it until someone told me I was doing a good job, then I could literally feel myself relax. It just meant so much and I couldn’t have heard it enough. I feel like from now on I’ll always long to hear those words and I try my best to tell new moms they are doing great at their new role.
Do you know a new mom that you could use a helping hand? What kind of things can you do for her?